Love Isn’t for the Poor—Or Is It? Am I Too Poor to Love?

Dear Reader,

My name is [names withheld], and I want to share something very personal. Maybe someone out there has felt this too—and maybe by telling my story, I’ll find healing.

I dated my boyfriend for over a year. Things were beautiful—or so I thought. Then he asked to meet my parents. I was excited. He met them two weeks ago.

But after that day, everything changed.

His calls reduced. He barely replied to my messages. I tried asking what was wrong, but he said nothing. For four whole days, he ignored my calls. On the fifth day, I called him three times. He didn’t pick up.

Then 30 minutes later, he sent me a message that broke my spirit.

He said he couldn’t continue with the relationship because he saw poverty in my family.

He complained that we didn’t have good chairs for visitors to sit on, that we drink tap water, and that our ceiling was damaged—saying he was lucky it didn’t fall on him.
He said he couldn’t enter a family that might one day depend on him financially.

I was shattered.

I responded to him with a worse message. I reminded him that I never hid my family’s financial status from him. He said he didn’t know it was that bad.

I’ve never felt so sad in my life.

My father is a farmer. He used his farming business to see me through university. I just finished my NYSC. I may not come from wealth, but I come from strength, from hard work, and from love.

Still, since that day, I’ve been broken. My spirit has been low. He blocked me on every social media platform and even blocked my number.

I keep asking myself: Did I deserve this?
Is love really this conditional?
Why do people treat poverty like a disease instead of a reality?

I don’t need pity. I need advice. How do I stop feeling depressed and move on with my life?

🗣️ Have you ever been judged for your background?
Please hit reply to this email or share your story in the comment section. Let’s create a space for healing. Someone out there needs to hear what you’ve overcome.

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With love,
— A Heartbroken Girl Trying to Heal